Tag Archives: Love

The Handbook: Building a Worldview Around Consent.

Today I want to talk about one of the biggest shifts I had to process in my thinking after my deconversion. Not to make it sound all dramatic or anything, but it was about the biggest 180 I could possibly have made, and chances are some of y’all are facing that same challenge now. Continue reading

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The Handbook: Recognizing When the Gas Lights Have Dimmed.

Do you know what gaslighting is? Here is how to identify this common religious-abuse tactic and–hopefully–escape from it. Continue reading

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Human Dignity Flutters Free, Again.

(Content note: Religious extremism and terrorism.) It was such an ugly, ugly story–and all the uglier for being so painfully familiar. A Muslim radical, newly arrived to Australia, took the most effective tool of communication he had–a gun–into a nice … Continue reading

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The Most Misunderstood Word (Isn’t Kingdom, Sorry).

I saw this interview on Religion News Service with Scot McKnight, who argues that Christians talk a big game about this idea of “kingdom,” but don’t really understand what it means in the Bible or how it should play out … Continue reading

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The Unequally Yoked Club: The Real Threat.

Last time we talked about how church leaders and teachers have been pushing the false idea for years that marriages must be “based on Jesus” or else terrible things will happen to the couples involved. Today we’ll talk about some … Continue reading

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The Unequally Yoked Club: Dale’s New Book

Good news for folks in the UYC! Dale McGowan’s newest book, In Faith and In Doubt: How Religious Believers and Nonbelievers Can Create Strong Marriages and Loving Families is coming out soon. I wanted to start talking about it, since … Continue reading

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It’s So Romantic.

(CN: Religious abuse, domestic violence, stalking.) Today we’re going to talk about one of the most sickening aspects of modern Christianity: this idea that the Christian god “woos” people by abusing and hurting them. “To woo someone” means to seek … Continue reading

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